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If you’ve ever tried to buy your girlfriend or wife something sexy to slip into, you may have been greeted by a sigh and a roll of the eyes. Not all women appreciate the cost or care you put into buying a slip of fabric that, to her eyes, will only last on her for five seconds anyway.

So should you bother buying lingerie for her at all, if she’s just going to scoff at it and fling it into the back of a drawer? You could buy her a $10 box of chocolates instead, and spend the $150 you just saved on yourself.

But before you let your fantasies of a lingerie-clad vixen lounging on your bed dissolve in the hopelessness of despair, here are some arguments that just might convince her to give that flimsy square of lace another go.

Tip #1: Tell her that lingerie makes you see her in a whole new light.

You love your partner anyway, right? But after seeing her every day for the past month/year/decade, it’s almost inevitable that you’ll stop seeing her as a sex object and start seeing her as a convenient personal assistant.

You don’t want to tell her that, of course. What you want to tell her is that, when she wears lingerie for you, you can’t tear your eyes off from her. The fabric highlights her curves and the sheen of her skin in a way that boxer shorts and a t-shirt can’t. It’s like she’s presenting herself to you as a gift wrapped in bright, shiny wrapping paper and bows, and you – lucky bugger – get to “unwrap” her.

Tip #2: Tell her that you want her to pick out something that makes her feel sexy.

Buying lingerie for a woman – unless you’ve got ESP or the confidence of her closest girlfriend – is a recipe for disaster. Come on, it’s not like you will automatically know what fits her or what she’ll like.

The best way to broach the issue of lingerie purchasing is to present her with a gorgeous wrapped box. Inside it, on a bed of velvet, lies a voucher, handwritten by you in your finest calligraphy or printed by the store. She gets to redeem the voucher for one item of lingerie with you, at her convenience.

It’s a known fact that wearing lingerie makes a woman feel sexy. Ask her how she feels when she’s dressed in a killer black dress and her sexiest heels. On top of the world, right? Well, that’s what sexy lingerie can do for her every day of the week.

Wearing lingerie can help her rediscover the sex kitten within. It can give her the courage and confidence to unleash her inner vixen. Can’t get much better than that, right?

Tip #3: Leave it on.

If she complains that there’s no point in wearing lingerie because you’ll just take it off again, tell her that you won’t take it off next time. There’s no need, after all. Most lingerie can be worked around easily (although you should beware of corsets with stiff boning), and the feeling of skin rubbing against fabric can add new sensations and friction to the act of sex. Plus, she may appreciate the wispy layer of fabric covering the areas of her body that she feels least confident about.

Tip #4: Don’t forget to ask.

Often, women don’t wear lingerie because they simply don’t think about it. So, the next time you seduce your partner, suggest that she slips into something more comfortable. That’s her cue to disappear into the bedroom and re-emerge as the embodiment of your hottest fantasy. Lavish compliments will ensure that she’ll feel enough positive reinforcement to want to do it again.

Bonus Tip

A perfect way to find out what kind of lingerie turns your woman on is to browse through our online store together. We offer bustiers, teddies, baby dolls, and more. And no, you don't have to know what those terms mean to enjoy what they look like.

We even offer Plus sizes for the amply proportioned woman.

So go ahead! Have a browse. You'll learn a lot about your partner's fantasies - and your own - in the process.