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These days, there’s nothing skanky about taking classes in pole dancing, striptease or exotic dancing.

Modern women are all about empowerment, and there’s nothing more empowering than claiming their own sexuality through mastering the art of seduction.

The Evolution of the Stripper: From Bad Girl to Sex Goddess

There’s never been a better time to be a stripper.  Far from the caricature of a down-and-out woman selling her body to make a buck, modern strippers can be inspired by burlesque artists like Dita Von Teese, who taught us to see the art and glamour in striptease.

You wouldn't have believed it ten years ago, but strippers are turning writers in record numbers.  The stripper memoir is now a recognized genre, thanks, in part, to blogger and screenwriter Diablo Cody, whose Candy Girl: A Year in the Life of an Unlikely Stripper helped boost her to fame.

Then there’s Scars and Stilettos by Harmony Dust, Strip City by Lily Burana, Confessions of a Stripper by Lacey Lane, Bare by Elisabeth Eaves…

Clearly, there’s something in these books that appeals to women.  Strippers aren’t just a male fantasy; they’re a female fantasy as well.  Women are intrigued by the notion of controlling men through their sexuality.  In fact, you could even say that strippers are the embodiment of Aphrodite, sirens that exercise almost supernatural power over the loins of men.

3 Ways Strippers Can Spice Up Your Relationship

So if you’re looking for ways to spice up your relationship, take a cue from the dark, seductive world of strip clubs.

1. Role play

If your girlfriend has ever fantasized about being a stripper, give her the opportunity in the privacy of your own home.  Do a role play where you’re the client and she’s the stripper.  The key is that she is in control.  Maybe she’ll ask you to sit in the darkened living room while she gets ready.  Have her favorite dance music playing in the background.  Let her strut her stuff “on stage” in her favorite outfit.  Just remember: as the client, you don’t get to touch.  If you want a lap dance, you’ll have to “pay.”

2. Take sex advice from a stripper.

Women’s magazines are full of strippers and escorts giving “insider” sex advice.  It’s a sign of how far our culture has evolved, that women feel comfortable taking sex advice from sex workers.  Nerve.com features sex advice from a stripper, and The Frisky even has a stripper columnist.

If your girlfriend is open enough to read sex advice given by strippers, why not encourage her to test out the tips?  You'll never go back to vanilla sex again.

3. Take a class

For the ultimate in stripper cool, there are a number of studios around the world offering pole dancing, exotic dancing, lap dancing, and striptease classes.

They’re the perfect way for women to get fit, learn new ways to move their bodies, and feel sexy at the same time.

Here in New Zealand, check out Pole Fitness, which offers pole dancing classes, sells dance poles, and even hosts hen's parties and corporate team-building events.