| 5 Tips to Get Her to Use a Sex Toy |
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 Usually, it’s the guys who can’t stand any competition in the bedroom. But some men are finding that it’s just as difficult to introduce a new toy in the bedroom as it is to introduce a new sexual partner. So how do you convince her that using a toy in the bedroom will enhance your sex life? Here are a few tips.
Tip #1: Tell her that everyone does it. According to eHow.com, 10% of American couples use vibrators at least occasionally in partnered sex. And a lot more have considered using one. The 2007/8 Durex Sexual Wellbeing Survey discovered that half of those surveyed felt that their sex lives lacked “excitement and variety.” Over half of respondents believed that sex-enhancing products should be available in mainstream stores, and roughly a quarter of people aged 25 to 54 expressed interest in vibrating sex toys. Tip #2: Tell her that it’s no different from candles and silk sheets. There’s nothing “creepy” or “inappropriate” about using a product to enhance one’s sexual experience. We’ve been using sexual enhancers for centuries! Aphrodisiacs, lubricants, lingerie, candles, perfumes, and even music are all well-known for their ability to ramp up those loving feelings. Sex toys are simply an extension of the genre. In fact, what may be the world’s oldest sex toy was created 28,000 years ago: a 20cm siltstone phallus discovered by archaeologists in Swabia. Tip #3: Tell her that her favorite celebrities use vibrators. If your partner follows the television program “Desperate Housewives,” tell her that even her favorite housewives, Eva Longoria and Teri Hatcher, love their vibrators. Eva told Self magazine in 2005: “I didn’t begin enjoying sex until I started masturbating. Before that, I really wasn't sexual. I bought my first vibrator three years ago. It's a shame I didn't discover it sooner. Now I give Rabbit vibrators to all my girlfriends. They scream when they unwrap it. The best gift I can give them is an orgasm.” When asked if her own love life was as racy as her character’s, Teri Hatcher told Bazaar: “I would say less, unless you count my vibrator; then it's more!” Other celebrities, including Jenny McCarthy (the Pocket Rocket) and Missy Elliot (the Butterfly), have also gone on the record to talk about their favorite toys. Tip #4: Soothe her fears. Some women are afraid that using a vibrator too often can prove harmful to her health. Not so. Although a vibrator can temporarily desensitize her nether regions, feeling will return quickly. The main dangers with sex toy use involve using unsafe or unsterilized toys. Some toys are made of flimsy materials that are impossible to sterilize properly. Sexologist Brian Parker suggests only buying toys made of “100-per-cent medica or food-grade silicone, Pyrex glass or Elastomer.” Always clean a toy before and after each use, and slip a condom over the toy if you’re unsure. Tip #5: Use it on yourself first. If she’s still uncertain about how she feels about using a toy, show her how much pleasure it can bring by allowing her to use it on you first. Once she sees how much the vibrations turn you on, she won’t be able to wait to try it herself! Make purchasing your first toy a bonding experience by browsing for toys together at our online store.
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