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In the past few years, lubricant has become a more common fixture the bedroom. In fact, there’s more lube options than ever before: lube for him, for her, that warm, that tingle or that make your parts taste like strawberry or mint. Unfortunately, lube rarely ever comes with instructions, which leaves many men and women in the dark about how to use lube for better, more pleasurable sex. No problem here's some help with that slippery issue.

1. Know what you’re working with. Condoms increase friction during sex, which can make sex feel dry and uncomfortable. That’s why most types of condoms come pre-lubricated. Take a hint from condom manufacturers and add a little extra lube for more comfortable, pleasurable, feels-like-the-real thing sex. Add a small drop of water-based or silicone-based lubricant to the inside tip of the condom and then to your condom-clad penis before having sex.

2. Use lube for foreplay. Flavored lubricant is made for oral sex. Lube is also good for mutual masturbation or partnered sex toy play.

3. Head for the water. Winding your way into the hot tub, shower or bath? Make sure you bring some silicone based lubricant. After all, warm water dries the vagina, which can make your idealised image of hot shower sex turn meh as you try, uncomfortably, to make it work. Add lube to your penis before you start sex, though, and you’ll be far better situated to have better sex. Just make sure to get it directly on your genitals and hand, as you then apply it to her genitals, being careful not to spill any on the shower floor, which could make the floor way too slippery for days on end.

4. Choose a vagina-friendly lube. Not all lubes are created equal. If your lady is overly sensitive to common ingredients in lubes, choose one that’s been developed with her body in mind.

Learn more about lubricants and don’t be afraid to expand your lube horizons beyond your local chemist. Check these out for starters:

Wet Naturals Beautifully Bare (which, incidentally, is on sale if you're quick) and Sensual Strawberry, water based lubes developed with sensitive skin in mind so they're hypoallergenic, Ph balanced, glycerine free and wash off in warm water. These are nice lubes, new to the market and they won't stain your sheets. Especially good for your first try. Another one worth a whirl is Pjur Woman. Especially formulated for a woman's sensitive skin Pjur is an silicon based lube that never dries out or goes sticky and will leave the skin soft, smooth and fabulous. Pjur, you can use in shower, pool or spa and it does exactly what it promises. And just in case you need a little something extra, Pjur is a perfect conditioner for all your latex gear. All are condom friendly and safe.