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Giving: Oral sex, ‘cunnilingus’, is just one of the ways to bring a woman to orgasm, some men believe it is the very best way and many, if not most, women would agree. This type of climax is intense and gratifying for both parties and allows the man a certain amount of control over the foreplay and duration of the woman’s orgasm, which is exciting for him and loaded with anticipation for her.

The climax from oral sex for a woman is usually more intense as the very centre of her femininity is being stimulated in the most intimate of ways. Guys you should get good at this as soon as possible! Remember, practice, practice, practice!

Receiving: Let’s be honest, you would be hard pressed to find a man who doesn’t like a good ‘blow job’, and rightly so. A man receiving a blow job has put his trust in a woman completely but perversely, at the same time he may just feel all-powerful. After all, a man getting a blow job can lie back and take all the pleasure he can stand and then climax without fear of, ‘jumping the gun’, so to speak.

What a man needs to do is make sure the woman giving head is getting all the right messages so she knows exactly how he feels about each move, each nuance, and each flick of the tongue, so don’t be shy. In fact there are men who prefer oral sex to intercourse to achieve climax and this is perfectly normal.

What to look for: Boys. Make sure you hit the spot! The clitoris is located below the Mound of Venus, the frontal exterior of the female sex organs, at the point where the minor lips meet. The clitoris is a short cylindrical organ composed mainly of erectile tissue, i.e., of two spongy bodies which can quickly fill with blood and cause the entire organ to stiffen and increase in size.

Like the penis, the clitoris is covered with millions of nerve endings but unlike the penis the clitoris does not protrude when excited. So look for the little upside down v shape fleshy bit and you’re well on your way!

Always encourage the woman to tell you if you’re off course because otherwise it’s no fun for anyone.

Gentle sucking, and tugging and vigorous manipulation with your tongue while watching for her reactions, she’ll let you know when your on course and getting it right.

What to do: Girls. We don’t have to tell you what to look for (we hope). Start slow, tease with your tongue, don’t bite off more than you can chew, so to speak, gagging is not a big turn-on, vary the rhythm and create some suction using your lips as a seal. Vary the intensity and make sure you keep an eye on him for signals.

To swallow or not to swallow that is the question. Personally, nuh! But hey if you need the protein go for it, otherwise encourage him to cum on some other part of your body…this can be very sexy.

If giving head is not your favorite thing to do then maybe you can divert by having a little fantasy coupled with some self stimulation, he'll get off on that too. DON’T USE YOUR TEETH OR BITE!

And a freindly reminder...It's not everyone's cup of tea so don't force the issue and oral sex carries many of the same health dangers as penetrative sex so be warned and prepared.