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You gotta hand it to Cindy Gallop. Not many “mature, experienced, confident older woman” would stand on stage at a major national conference and explain that they like to have sex with men in their twenties.

Even fewer would state, in front of hundreds of people, that they don’t like getting a cum shot in the face.

But that’s exactly what middle-aged advertising executive Cindy Gallop did in her presentation at TED2009.

Gallop was sick and tired of having to teach her Generation Y lovers how to have real sex rather than porn sex.

So she launched MakeLoveNotPorn.com, as her attempt to provide young men with a little sexual “reeducation, rehabilitation and reorientation.”

Porn is Good - Just Not a Model for Sex

Don’t get her wrong. Gallop is a fan of hardcore porn – as long as it meets her strict criteria. She jokes: “My overriding criteria when I select [porn] is to choose something that does not overly resemble open-heart surgery. “

But she’s noticed that a lot of young men fantasize about doing what they see in porn. A cum shot to the face is just the beginning.

There’s nothing inherently wrong, of course, with ejaculating onto a woman’s body, but Gallop’s fear is that women who don’t enjoy it don’t feel that they can speak up, because they think it’s a normal part of everyday sex.

Porn is Modern-Day Sex Ed

Most young people today get their primary sex education from porn. Thanks to our collective fear about frank sexual talk around young people, kids must turn to the only source they have for the mechanics of sex: internet pornography.

We’re not just talking about teenagers here. We’re talking about kids as young as 10.

A study into the top items kids are searching for on the internet lists “sex” or “porn” in the top four for ALL age groups – including kids younger than 7 years old.

For boys, “sex” is the 4th and “porn” is the 5th most searched-for term. For girls, “sex” is the 5th most searched for term, after such searches as “Youtube,” “Facebook,” and “Taylor Swift.”

» Check out what kids are searching for on the internet here.

No kid escapes his or her youthful years without being exposed to porn. A recent study conducted by Professor Simon Louis Lajeunesse of the University of Montreal’s School of Social Work even concluded:

“Guys who do not watch pornography do not exist.”

What Today's Young People Expect from Sex

So what is all this “porn education” doing to our attitudes towards sex?

In a recent article in Details on how internet porn is changing teen sex, a "typical" 21-year-old college student from Florida describes the first time he ejaculated in a girl’s face like this:

"It was the happiest moment of my young life. There is just something about blowing a load in a chick's face that makes you feel like a man."

Another college student adds:

"Pubic hair is disgusting. Girls should keep their vaginas porn-star trim."

Those are precisely the attitudes that Cindy Gallop is encountering in her trysts with younger men, and she’s vowed to do something about it.

The "Porn World" vs. the "Real World"

She’s launched MakeLoveNotPorn.com, a website to reeducate young people about the differences between the “Real World” and the “Porn World.”

The site doesn’t judge porn in any way. It simply offers some helpful tips about what to expect from “Real World” sex, in comparison with the sex you see on a computer or television screen.

In fact, the sex tips alone are worth a visit to the site. They explain, among other things, the importance of the clitoris to great sex, or why it takes a little extra work to get a woman aroused in comparison to a man.

You can follow Cindy Gallop and her amusing insights about sex on Twitter.

And don’t forget to watch the TED2009 presentation that started it all. Comedian Robin Williams even developed a 10-minute comedy routine around it. Pass it on!