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You’d think it would be the last thing any guy would want: for his wife or girlfriend to put on a strap-on and take control.

But according to the latest sex toy trends, that’s precisely what’s happening.

More and more couples are expanding their tastes beyond the by-now-routine pleasures of rabbit-style vibrators and cock rings to something a little kinkier.

G-spot stimulators.  P-spot stimulators.  Strap-ons.

Strap-ons are nothing to be afraid of, and they can be used on both men and women to deliver a novel and revelatory sexual experience.

Guys can use a strap-on to pleasure his partner vaginally and anally at the same time.  Strap-ons can also be used to compensate for erectile dysfunction.

Women can use strap-ons to stimulate their man anally, in an act known as “pegging.”

If you’re a guy and you haven’t yet experienced the pleasures of prostate massage, you don’t know what you’re missing.  Stimulating the prostate delivers intense sensation, much like stimulating the clitoris on a woman.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys associate anal stimulation with being gay and miss out on all the pleasure that this part of their anatomy has to offer.

If you’re interested in finding out the facts, check out our article on “Prostate Massage for Dummies."

It’s recommended that you get used to anal play first before going out and purchasing your first strap-on.

Here are five tips to ensure you get the most out of strap-on sex.

Tip #1: Take Your Time

It can take a while to figure out how to get into the harness and secure it properly.  Take your time, and don’t rush.  Adjust the harness properly so that it feels comfortable and sits just right.  Many harnesses are designed to stimulate a woman’s clitoris and are so effective at the task that some women enjoy wearing them all day long!

Tip #2:  Use Plenty of Lube

A dong, unlike a penis, doesn’t produce its own natural lubricant.  Don’t stint on the lube, especially for anal sex, and keep lubing up as necessary.

Tip #3:  Let the Receiver Set the Pace

The first few times you use a strap-on, go slowly and let your partner decide how hard and fast he or she wants to go.  It may be better to let your partner back onto the dong rather than thrust forward.  Always listen to your partner and play it safe.

Tip #4:  Clean the Dong Thoroughly Between Uses

It’s very important to keep the dong as clean as possible, especially if it’s being used for anal sex.  Immediately after each use, wash it with warm soapy water or boil it for three minutes if it’s heatproof.

If washing it is too much hassle, use a condom over the dong.  Lubricated, textured, or novelty condoms can provide a different experience.

Tip #5:  Experiment

Strap-ons can be used in a number of different ways.  Oral, anal, vagina, you name it, a strap-on can do it!

There’s even a strap-on harness that attaches to the wearer’s thigh, to take “lap dances” to a whole new level.  (Get it now in our online store.)

Also, don’t forget that the dongs can be removed for manual use.

How to Buy a Strap-On

You can buy harnesses and dongs separately, but if you’re a new user, it’s best to get a strap-on set that includes several dongs for variety.

This Crotchless Strap-on Harness is a great one for beginners.  Designed for female use, its crotchless design allows partners to alternate between giving and getting.

For an even kinkier model, the High G Strap-on can’t be beat.  These latex panties are specially designed to turn on a woman on by the mere act of wearing them.  The dong is centered over G-spot, delivering stimulation to her with every thurst, and a mini-vibe sits in the crotch for extra pleasure.

Lastly, if you want a harness that’s 100% adjustable, you’ll want the Double Tip Strap-on Set.  With nylon straps, steel buckles, and quick-release snaps, you should be able to fit it to suit any body type.

Want More Information?

For more information on anal sex, check out our article, “Anal Fear Factor.”

For more information on choosing and using a strap-on, check out MyPleasure.com's Curious Couple's Guide to Strap-on Harnesses and Dildos.